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Sorting out my things before moving house and OH look, it’s the University of Oxford examination regulations 2010!
 Everyone in my year got given one of these bible-sized books (apparently costing the university £45 per person) detailing everything you never wanted to know about the rules of examinations at the university. It is affectionately known as “The Doorstop.”

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Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

i have a problem and i want to ask for advice: i can't seem to be able to hold a grudge. like, you could have done some really fucked up shit to me and i'll never keep you out of my life. i'll be mad at you for a while and then when you'll treat me nicely, i'll jump right back into our previous relationship. i hate that i do this to myself, i know this person will hurt me, but i just feel sorry for them when they approach me again. pls help me fight this, you're so very inspirational to me

notbecauseofvictories:

Okay, first of all, anon, I want you to use this advice very carefully. Overall, I favor a policy of reconciliation over dramatic friend-breakups at every slight. People have big feet, they say the wrong thing sometimes, they panic, and sometimes apologies are sincere. But if this person (people) is really hurting you, then my advice is to break up with their ass.

First, you have to articulate why you are angry & that you need space. You don’t actually have to tell them you’re done being friends, but before you can pull away, you have to articulate why to the person you’re angry at. (You can just freeze them out—but I’ve been on the end of an inexplicable silent treatment, and that shit is confusing and hurts like a motherfucker.)

Then, don’t rely on your anger to stick around? Emotion is fickle. If this person is hurting you, make the conscious decision to cut them out of your life. Don’t reply to their text messages. Block them on facebook. If you have to interact with them, be polite, but don’t do anything more than necessary. Set up enforceable boundaries that you can hold yourself to. You do not want this person in your life.

If they approach you again and you feel sorry for them, refuse. Say “I’m still hurting from X.”  They’ll probably offer excuses. (If they apologize, sincerely, that might be a sign you can tentatively return to your relationship, but use your own judgment.) Repeat how you need your space. You can say you haven’t forgiven them, if you feel up to it. You’re still angry at them. You might always be angry at them.

If that person tries to invalidate how you feel, stand your ground. You’re probably going to feel defensive and guilty, but as long as you stay polite and communicate your feelings, you have done nothing wrong.Ultimately, I can’t do anything for you. You have to make the decision to actively and consciously cut this person out of your life, and refuse when they come (apparently) crawling back.

It’s up to you.

This is really, really great advice.

I’ve been making a giant pagoda-style building on Minecraft! It’s a long, long way from finished, but I have the basic skeleton there and the first floor is shaping up nicely. You can also seen the start of the spider-proof gardens and rainbow sheep enclosure!

Bonus points if you can spot the skeleton.

schala:

Usagi is so depressed about Mamoru being kidnapped by the Dark Kingdom that she is unable to focus on anything. Of all the senshi, it’s Minako, who was just introduced and has not had time to become friends with the rest of the team yet, is the one who shows up unannounced at Usagi’s house to help cheer her up.

I don’t know why but that stuck with me a lot too?! Perhaps it was the realisation of the understated nature of a friend comforting someone without even mentioning the issue, just doing something nice. Or the lovely solidarity between two female friends. I was probably seven when I first saw this, so I guess perhaps I hadn’t seen that much in media?

(I also remember trying to work out what the difference was between Usagi with her hair down and Minako - guess i was interested in character design even then)

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thesylverlining:

what happened in roughly 1870 though

why was there temporary internet

with a few people searching for pokemon?

It’s a search of Google books, but the question still stands, what happened in 1870

I CAN ANSWER THIS!!

In the Cornish dialect of English, Pokemon meant ‘clumsy’ (pure coincidence).

In the mid 1800s there was a surge of writing about the Cornish language and dialect in an attempt to preserve them with glossaries and dictionaries being written. I wrote about it HERE.

Cool!

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gryffindorgeek7777:

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the-last-teabender:

Robin Thicke is unapologetic about how rapey ‘Blurred Lines’ is, meanwhile the dude who parodied it issues a public apology for one word.

And that is just one reason why I love Weird Al.

It’s great that he’s addressed this but are we really supposed to believe that NO ONE during the extremely lengthy processes of writing a song, recording it, mastering it and animating the music video wouldn’t have brought it up?

Excuse me but how the hell is spastic even remotely insulting?

So I just recently learned that in the UK calling someone spastic means the same thing as calling someone retarded, only much worse.

If it makes people in the UK feel any better, people in the US literally do not know this (like literally no one I have ever met and/or know). Here being spastic is usually meant to mean something along the lines of acting like a hyper-active child (like running around in circles yelling just because they feel like it please be quiet for just 2 minutes type of child). NOBODY here uses it as a slur.

Since Weird Al is a US musician and the US music industry is pretty non-international, yeah actually I think its entirely possible that none of the people who worked on this song actually knew that spastic was considered an awful slur in some parts of the world.

And I’m like 99.9999% sure that Weird Al is genuinely very sorry that he was accidentally offensive.

I figured when I heard the song that he probably had no idea what the derivation of the word was, (it pertains to people with cerebral palsey) or that it is really very taboo over here in the UK. It really is one of the strongest words I think you can use against someone here.


I would be really lovely if he re-recorded without that word so I can feel better about buying a song that  I otherwise really liked!

thesem:

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thesem:

dialupmodem:

did this person break up their own relationship

Isn’t this essentially like a modern-day version of “Babooshka

If it ends badly, it’s Babooshka. If it ends well, its the Pina Colada song.

Not quite I think because the Piña Colada song is him unknowingly answering a personal that was placed by his lady and then meeting up and things are fine (ish? Haha don’t think about it too hard) whereas in Babooshka you have like an active deception on the part of one party (with the whole irony being the only reason the husband going for Babooshka is because her writing reminded him of his wife from happier if also more youthful times)

That’s just my listening of it though, like in Piña Colada his lady never intended to see him nor him her which is why it’s happier, haha, it’s a chance to fall on love again maybe? Left for the listener to decide at least, that kinda thing. If you ask me.

Yeah, in the Pina Colada song both sides are ignorant to the weird coincidence going on, whereas Babooshka is a woman actually manipulating her husband. I just felt like making the joke.

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